Idle Hands ...

We all want to make a good impression when we are eating in the company of others.  Most of us have been taught when eating to not fidget with one's hands.  But what o you do with your free hand when eating?  A definite don't - don't touch your face or your hair at the dining table.  So ladies stop trying to look seductive to your dinner date by twisting that strand of hair around your finger or running your hand through your hair.  You don't look cute - you look gauche.  But enough about what not to do....

Dear Abby recently answered correctly when she noted that one's free hand is to properly rest in one's lap when eating.  The column, however, neglected to specify that that answer is the proper guidance when eating American style (where you only hold one utensil when actually eating).  On the other hand, when eating European or Continental style, place your wrists on the table (when not holding a utensil or otherwise engaging in eating, drinking or passing food).